How Certain Women Get A Man To Pursue Them Relentlessly, Using The Gentle Art of Being Hard To Get
(Instead of Trying So Hard, They Draw Him Closer Effortlessly)

This truly is a woman's "best-kept secret"!

Why does love have to be so complicated?

Why do men start out strong and then fade away without explanation?

How can you get a man to chase you?

How do you get a man to MISS you?

No Matter What Men Say....

No matter what they tell you, men love it when you drive them crazy.

Men feel very much alive when they are crazy with passion and interest for a woman who rivets their attention.

The best way to make a man CHASE you is to do LESS, not more.

Does "hard to get" increase the intensity? You bet it does.

For example, many of us have an old flame who stays in our minds.

One reason he stays in your mind is because you don't HAVE him.

He's extremely HARD TO GET.

That affects how much you THINK about him and want him!

It feels intense! And falling in love is delicious when it's... intense!

That's exactly what happens when you're harder to get.

You create intense desire in the man you want. (And even in men you don't want!)

The Game of Love

Is love a bit of a game? You bet it is.

If you want a man to be CRAZY about you... then you need to get very, very good at the game of love!

You do that by following the secrets that have been handed down for generations!

Being Hard To Get Takes Courage

If you're afraid to reach out and grab what you want, then "Hard To Get" is not for you.

If you approach love with a chip on your shoulder, then "Hard To Get" is not for you.

But if you want to learn the truths of Human Nature that cause a man to fall deeply in love with you...

Then these old-fashioned, tried-and-true secrets can change your whole world.

Hard To Get Is Controversial

We've heard all the objections. Over and over again. Here are just a few:

Some women say, "With a really great man, I shouldn't need to play games."

We say, "Great men love a challenge. When they're married to you, they'll cherish you all the more because you were hard to get."

Some women say, "I don't have the energy to work on how I come across to men."

We say, "Most worthwhile things take energy and effort. The results are worth it."

Some women say, "I just don't like the whole idea of playing hard to get."

We say, "Consider the alternative - being 'easy'? It's not a pretty picture."

What Men Think They Want (And What They Really Love)

We just love it when MEN say, "I don't want a woman who plays games."

We just smile and think, "Yeah, right. What men think they want and what they really want can be two different things!"

Men don't always know what they really want - until they meet a woman who turns their world upside down.

Have you ever seen a man move heaven and earth to be with a woman?

He wouldn't have to move heaven and earth if he didn't have some obstacle in the way.

HINT: Men actually love moving mountains for a woman. There's no greater feeling for a man than winning a woman who is tough to win... who is desired by others...

Of course, you're getting the picture here!

No matter what men say, they love a challenge... of a woman who is hard to get.

And a man backs away from the woman who falls for him before he's "earned" it.

Have You Been Too "Easy To Get"?

The opposite of Hard To Get is "easy."

Easy means being too eager.

Easy means revolving your world around his.

Easy means getting too serious too soon.

Easy equals desperate. A hard-to-get woman is never desperate.

Not being hard to get means that you get to Emotional First Base long before he does.

When he realizes that you are there before him - he will start backing away from you - and break your heart.

Being Hard To Get means you are in control - and you're a lot more likely to get the man you want and to have a better relationship with him - that lasts.

"How true - how true! When I'm being mysterious and not pouring out my emotional needs, I have total control.

"I hate to say it, but the more I'm mysterious, the more he wants to be with me."

-- Lisa

The Old-Fashioned Ways Are Best

Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a reason.

The principles of being Hard To Get are all about valuing yourself!

Hard To Get teaches you how to have restraint - especially when you feel like getting clingy or falling apart!

Love is not for the faint of heart.

Make no mistake about it. Love is a "game" - the most wonderful "game" ever invented.

So play to win. Play hard.... to get!

Why am I telling you this? My name is Mimi Tanner. I've written many books on relationships.

I have literally spent a lifetime studying the subject of MEN - and WOMEN - everything from flirting to attracting, chasing, being chased, falling in love, and why men and women fall in love.

I know what it takes to win a man's heart, and my advice has worked for literally thousands of women who write me every day to tell me about it!

"But Mimi, What About 'Manipulation'??"

Many people are against the idea of playing hard to get. They say it's wrong; it's manipulative; it's trickery of the worst order.

First of all, that's one of the many MYTHS about being hard to get.

Second, what those people are really afraid of is that playing hard to get will give you an "unfair advantage."

It will. But there's nothing "unfair" about it.

Anyone can use these truths. But very few do!

You can call it "playing games" or you can call it "the thrill of the chase"!

Whatever you call it, these "games" can mean the difference between being alone with your regrets - or living every day with the man you love.

Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get.

Be Hard To Get - or Easy To Forget

Picture this.

A man meets a woman. He says, "You're a fine-looking woman. I'd like to go out with you and in about a year, we'll get married."

She says, "Great! Works for me."

What's wrong with this picture?

Would you watch a movie if this were the plot? Of course not!

Why not? Because it would be BORING!

You wouldn't read a book like that, either. In fact, any book on love, whether it was published last week or 200 years ago - has more of a plot than that!

So why would you want YOUR LOVE LIFE to be boring - when you can create memories and have fun - and still be true to your highest self?

Being Hard To Get in the Right Way

Are you the kind of woman a man loses sleep over, worrying about whether he'll win your heart?

That same man who never calls you back is quite capable of falling head over heels in love with a woman who makes him feel an overwhelming desire to win her.

This happens even with guys who say they are "afraid of commitment."

Somehow when a certain kind of woman comes along, these guys miraculously lose their fear of commitment because they are so busy trying to get this woman into their lives - determined, in fact.

But what does it take to become that kind of woman in your man's life?

Hard To Get is a private program which speaks to the hearts of thousands of women.

It's that kind of program that women love to own and generally don't tell the entire world about it - but they devour the teachings privately and take its principles to heart.

Being Hard To Get Makes Him Treasure You More

How do you know when you have won his heart completely?

When he wants to show you off to his friends.

When he can't wait to bring you home to meet his parents.

When he calls you during the day to see how you're doing.

When he does thoughtful things for you - just because.

When other men are around you at a party, he's confident in you, but... keeping his eye on the situation!

Men Cherish What They Work Hard To Obtain

Being hard to get is about one of the most basic truths of human nature:

We love a feeling of accomplishment. We love to work for something valuable and finally obtain it.

We tend to scorn what is handed to us too easily. We take those things for granted.

We rarely appreciate things which come too easily. We value the things which are elusive - harder to reach, harder to find, harder to get.

Human Nature Wins Out Every Time

Many people are suspicious and downright hostile about this truth of human nature.

They waste precious energy fighting against it - even though the truth stares them in the face every day!

When people fight against human nature, they lose every time.

They may as well be fighting against the sun rising and setting, because their discomfort is not going to change the facts of life!

We humans thrive on desire. We value what we put our time, effort, and money into.

This theme of human nature has been well known throughout the ages of time.

When you can't get something easily - it gets your attention. You want it more.

This can even be the make-or-break factor at certain crucial times.

But you have to know what you're doing - otherwise, you'll offend a guy, turn him off, or break his heart.

Make no mistake about it. Love is a game - the most wonderful "game" ever invented.

Play to win. Play hard.... to get!

From a reader

Hi Mimi, I suppose the whole thing boils down to a very old principle: whatever you work for has more value (in your mind) than what you get for free.

If you have to court a woman for three months, when you finally sleep with her, it means much more to you than if you slept with her the first night (independently of the objective "quality" of the sex). Something difficult is more meaningful than something easy.

Applied to romance, when the high-maintenance woman makes the man jump through hoops, he's associating her with something valuable, because he has to work so hard for her. Whereas as the non-demanding, "together," low-maintenance woman: well, yeah, she's attractive, but... so what? Why bother?

Hope I'm not overstating my case. ;-)


Are You Pushing Him Away By Being Too Available?

A man can't pursue you if you're his too soon, or too easily!

Instead, take lots of time to get to know him... and enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the destination.

Even a minor difference toward being "harder to get" can make a major difference in how your man responds to you.

Hard to get does not mean impossible to get! I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

Being hard to get means you'll never have to settle for less than the happiness you really want.

Discover how the chase will be thrilling and memorable for both of you - with love, respect, fun, and excitement.

What People Are Saying

You go Mimi! I hope these women "get" what you are saying.

You are a potential life preserver for many, Mimi.....I hope they grab the HUGE BUOY OF INFORMATION you throw to them as they flail along in the sea of offer them the ways and means to preserve their precious life, sanity, dignity and INTEGRITY!!!!!!

S. G.

Dear Mimi,

Wanted to give you a thanks for your amazing work. I've purchased almost all of your programs, and today I purchased your "man mistake eraser" guide.

I just want to say, from someone who's read EVERYTHING there is to read about dating/relationships, nothing comes close to this!!!

Finally, a positive out look and an ANSWER on what to ACTUALLY do instead of pages and pages of junk! I'm a huge fan of yours and will continue to support ANY of your work!


In "Hard To Get" You Will Discover These Truths:

The "Pursuit" of Love How To Get Chased By Men

Men love pursuit - and pursuit must be difficult. "Hard To Get' is chock-full of advice on HOW to be pursued by men, and why men love to pursue women. Men love it when you make it difficult to win you.

Why the one being pursued is the one with the most power.

How 'Hard To Get 'brings out the best in men.

What men think about women who chase them - and why you never want to chase any man.

Why pursuing him will push him away.

How to handle men who open up and shut down!

How to apply "the whip of indifference"!

Why you have to hold back so he can come to you.

Human Nature 101

It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to fight against it!

"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature. "Hard to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind shaking things up!

Playing Hard to Get Works! The Hard-To-Get mindset gives you an edge.

Love should be playful! Being playful is one of the most important elements of "Hard to Get"!

What men really think about women who are Hard To Get.

Why you can get comfortable on that pedestal - and why this is so important.

Being Hard To Get raises your value in his eyes.

The one way you should NOT treat a man!

How to Maintain Your Mystery with Men

This is one of the greatest challenges in a relationship.

How do you become intimate, and yet, still maintain your mystery and keep him interested?

Find out how to keep the mystery alive. It's easier than you may have ever considered.

"The Serious Talk" - When You Want To Know Where Your Relationship Is Going"!

Playing Hard to Get Means You Never Initiate the Serious Talk

Ultimatums - the Close Cousin of the Serious Talk

But I Need To Know Where Things Stand!

Biological Clock-Watchers: The Meter is Running

"But If I Never Have a Serious Talk With Him, He May Never Commit!"

The Boiling Point - "I Don't Care What Happens"

How To Recover From the Serious Talk

"How To Get Rid of the Other Woman" (Piece of Cake)

Here are the most effective ways to ward off the other woman.

Don't compete with her - handle her. "Piece of Cake!"

Can you triumph over a female threat to your relationship? Is there someone who intrudes on your happy world with him?

This session will provide unforgettable ways to handle any woman who wishes YOUR man belonged to HER.

This is Mimi Tanner's Most Controversial Program

No holds barred, no pretend indignation here - let's talk about Human Nature and how it works with every one of us, each and every day - especially when it comes to your love life.

"Mimi Tanner is simply one of the best when it comes to writing to women on the art of finding and keeping a great man. She has become well-known on a global scale in a relatively short time. Why? Because she covers highly in-demand subjects with a flair and disarming friendliness that is unequalled."

Relationship Coaches Scot and Emily McKay
Hosts of "X and Y on the Fly" Podcasts

What's "Hard To Get" All About?

Exactly How to Be Hard To Get

How To Work With Human Nature Instead of Against It

Why You Shouldn't Act Like He's the One

Why Intensity Matters So Much

What Men Fear that Drives Them Away - and How To Avoid It

The Chase - Why It Matters So Much to Both of You!

Ultimatums (why you'll never need one)

He pursues you - and thinks that it's his idea

Why You Should NEVER Initiate the "Serious Talk" With Any Man

More from "Hard To Get":

How to Get His Attention and get him to Chase You!

Hard to Get is Human Nature 101

Why What He Works For Has More Value

"He Was Not Going To Let Me Get Away"

"Who wants to play games just to keep a man?

Hard to Get is about self-control and confidence

How to get comfortable on That Pedestal

"He started to behave differently."

When things are going so well - then everything changes

How to Get Rid of the Other Woman - Piece of Cake!

Does a woman have to be hard to get forever?

Why the Best Men Love Women Who are Hard to Get

And Much More!!

Perceived Value and the Scarcity Factor

One of the great lessons of love is known as the scarcity factor. Plain and simple: people tend to want what they cannot have!

When things are hard to obtain, they seem more valuable - to put it mildly.

What if someone told you that you could buy a 2-year-old Jaguar for $2,000. What would you think?

You'd think that there must be something wrong with it. (And you'd probably be right.)

When you think of luxury items or designer clothing, what is the number-one thing that sets them apart? Is it the workmanship? The quality?

Perhaps - but far more than that, it's How Much It Costs!

It costs more, so it's harder to obtain. Fewer people will be able to get it - and if you have it, you must have had something special in order to get it.

But things are only as valuable as someone thinks. And the more rare something is, the more people think it is worth.

I once searched high and low to find a special, out-of-print book. It was written in the 1950's and few people remembered it. I was thrilled to finally find the book, and paid $150 over the internet in order to obtain this rare copy.

For example - I once searched high and low to find a special, out-of-print book. I paid $150 over the internet in order to obtain this rare copy.

It turns out, the very same book was about to be thrown away by a public library because no one had checked it out for over 15 years.

It's called "perceived value."

What does this have to do with relationships between men and women? A lot!

It really starts on the inside. If you value yourself, it will show, and others will value you more, too.

If you value yourself, you will be focused on your own goals and activities - and less focused every waking minute on some guy. That automatically makes you more hard to get.

What's the opposite of hard to get? It's desperate. Desperation repels others, and is revealed in a thousand subtle ways - all of which you need to avoid like the plague.

I get a lot of email from women who are spending enormous amounts of time thinking about a guy in their life, but who are not spending enormous amounts of time adding value to their own lives by learning and growing. That's the first step to becoming hard to get.

It's not about being self-absorbed or selfish - it's really about self-respect. The greatest gift you have is YOU. What you do with this gift will affect not only you, but literally thousands of people.

Whether you believe it or not, you already have an image. People know you and are aware of you - your presence is known. Your image is out there. You are somebody already.

Is that somebody the kind of person who is sought after?

Start today to see yourself as the kind of woman who makes men lose sleep thinking about you!

Yes, love is a game. Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get!

I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

When these principles become a part of you, you'll be free to take your love life as far as you want it to go!

I can't wait for you to discover Hard To Get - a woman's best-kept secret!

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With Love,
Mimi Tanner
Author of Hard To Get: The Timeless Art of Letting Him Chase You

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