The Gentle Art of Being Hard To Get:

How To Persuade a Man To Pursue You Relentlessly
(Instead of Trying So Hard, You Just Pull Him Closer)

This truly is a woman's "best-kept secret"!

Does your love life feel like a never-ending effort?

That's probably because you're trying too hard.

You may feel that it's up to you to do everything to make him respond to you.

You lose sleep trying to figure him out.

You search for advice to show you what to do.

You try to say and do exactly the right thing to get him closer.

Yet the harder you try, the more it seems impossible.

Is it his attachment style? Or is he just not interested enough?

The first thing to do is this: stop trying so hard.

As you're wearing yourself out trying to do everything right, you're losing confidence.

There's a better way to draw him close to you.

And you don't have to be cold, rude, or "unavailable."

No Matter What Men Say....

No matter what they tell you, men love it when you drive them crazy.

Men feel very much alive when they feel passion and interest for a woman who rivets their attention.

The problem is:

Most women do not cause a man to feel this way.

Most women do far too much to get a man's attention.

That's not the way to make a man want you more.

If you always do too much for a guy, but end up with bad results over and over, then you must start doing less.

This gives him a chance to want you more.

Let's think for a minute about someone you may have wanted a lot.

For example, you may have an ex who has stayed in your mind.

One reason he's stayed in your mind is because you don't have him.

That affects how much you think about him and want him.

It feels intense! And falling in love is delicious when it's... intense!

And by the way, is that ex doing lots of nice things for you?

He's doing absolutely nothing because he's long gone.

Wanting someone is not about how MUCH they are doing for you.

I'm not saying to ignore a man, or be cold to him.

But instead of trying to win him over by doing so much... and finding that this only backfires...

You can cause him to desire you in the way that he is hardwired to respond to.

The Game of Love

Do you think love is a bit of a game? Of course it is.

If you want a man to be crazy about you... and appreciate you instead of taking you for granted...

Then all you need to do is apply these simple secrets of human nature.

These are the secrets that have been handed down for generations!

These old-fashioned, tried-and-true secrets can change your whole world.


A few months back I told you about my relationship with a man who clearly told me that his last girlfriend tried to be too serious and he bolted ("listen to his words!").

Well, we just got married and I couldn't be happier.

Even now, though, I still like to make him chase a little.

He keeps telling me how lucky he is.

We have a lot of FUN! Isn't that what it's all about?


Emily and Robert

In the dating world, Emily was always hesitant to make the first move.

But when she met Robert at a coffee shop, she was drawn to his kind eyes and easygoing ways.

They exchanged phone numbers and she couldn't stop thinking about him.

She had an overwhelming urge to ask him out.

So two days after they met, in spite of her nerves, Emily mustered up her courage.

She sent Robert a message and asked him out.

To her delight, he accepted and they began seeing each other.

Robert was charming and attentive. Emily felt like she was finally with someone who understood her.

Their connection felt very strong.

But four weeks into their relationship, Robert's attention seemed to wane.

He stopped texting as frequently and seemed less interested in making plans.

Feeling hurt and confused, Emily decided to try and rekindle their connection by planning a special date.

She hoped that planning a romantic evening out would help them reconnect and bring back the spark that had been present in the beginning.

Unfortunately, things did not go as she hoped.

Robert was distant and distracted throughout the evening, and Emily could tell that he was not as interested in her as he had been before.

She was heartbroken and couldn't help but wonder what she had done wrong.

She was left feeling hurt and rejected, and it was hard not to feel like she had wasted her time.

Does this sound familiar? Emily was doing too much!

She was not giving Robert the chance to chase her at all.

Men actually enjoy going after what they want.

So, give a man room to do exactly this!

Most Women Change After a Few Months (Without Realizing It) and Start Pursuing Him!

The opposite of Hard To Get is "easy."

That's what happens when you don't lean back and let him come to you.

Men are hard-wired to be the pursuer.

Men love being focused on a goal - especially this one!

So don't be so "easy" all the time, and here's what I mean:

Easy means being too eager.

Easy means revolving your world around his from the very beginning.

Easy means getting too serious too soon.

Easy women repel a man because they seem desperate.

They seem to have chosen him before he's even proven himself.

That's what feels "off" to him.

That's why he loses interest.

Just think of how often you got to Emotional First Base long before he did.

When a man realizes that - he will start backing away from you - and break your heart.

That's why being "hard to get" gives you more control over how well your relationship turns out.

You're far more likely to get the man you want - without having to stress out and try so hard.

"How true - how true! When I'm being mysterious and not pouring out my emotional needs, I have total control.

"I hate to say it, but the more I'm mysterious, the more he wants to be with me."

-- Lisa

What Men Think They Want (And What They Really Love)

You've heard men say, "I don't want a woman who plays games."

What men think they want and what they really want can be two different things!

When the game of love is played well, no one loses.

Men don't always know what they really want - until they meet a woman who turns their world upside down.

Have you ever seen a man move heaven and earth to be with a woman?

He wouldn't have to move heaven and earth if he didn't have some obstacle in the way.

HINT: Men actually love moving mountains for a woman. There's no greater feeling for a man than winning a woman who is tough to win... who is desired by others...

Of course, you're getting the picture here!

No matter what men say, they love a challenge... of a woman who is hard to get.

And a man backs away from the woman who falls for him before he's "earned" it.

The Old-Fashioned Ways Still Apply - Because Human Nature Doesn't Change

Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a reason. It has worked for centuries!

The principles of being Hard To Get are all about valuing yourself!

Hard To Get shows you how to have restraint - especially when you feel like getting clingy or falling apart!

Love is not for the faint of heart.

Make no mistake about it. Love is a "game" - the most wonderful "game" ever invented.

Why Am I Telling You This?

My name is Mimi Tanner. I'm the author of many books on relationships.

I have literally spent a lifetime studying the subject of MEN - and WOMEN - when it comes to love.

I've studied and pondered everything from flirting to attracting, chasing, being chased, falling in love, sex, getting love back after you've lost it, commitment, and much more.

My greatest interest is why men and women fall in love (and stay in love).

My advice has worked for literally thousands of women, resulting in happy marriages and relationships!

Most of all, I want you to have the loving, lifelong relationship that you are meant for.

This program is vitally important to your immediate success in love.

You won't find this specific information anywhere else, because what's in this program does not exist elsewhere!

From a reader

Mimi, I just wanted to tell you that because of you and your writings, the way I went about things, I got the best husband in the world. I was doing things all wrong. I took your advice and it worked.

I still read all your emails.


"But Mimi, What About 'Manipulation'??"

Many people are against the idea of playing hard to get. They say it's wrong; it's manipulative; it's trickery of the worst order.

First of all, that's one of the many MYTHS about being hard to get.

Second, what those people are really afraid of is that applying these principles will give you an "unfair advantage."

It will. But there's nothing "unfair" about it.

Anyone can use these truths. But very few do!

You can call it "playing games" or you can call it "the thrill of the chase"!

Whatever you call it, these so-called "games" can mean the difference between being alone with your regrets - or living every day with the man you love.

Let the games begin!

Be Hard To Get - or Easy To Forget

Are you the kind of woman a man loses sleep over, worrying about whether he'll win your heart?

That same man who never calls you back is quite capable of falling head over heels in love with a woman who makes him feel an overwhelming desire to win her.

This happens even with guys who say they are "afraid of commitment."

Somehow when a certain kind of woman comes along, these guys miraculously lose their fear of commitment, because they are so busy trying to get this woman into their lives - determined, in fact!

So what does it take to become that kind of woman in your man's life?

Hard To Get is a private program which speaks to the hearts of thousands of women.

It's that kind of program that women love to own and generally don't tell the entire world about it - but they devour the teachings privately and take its principles to heart.

From a reader

I am currently in a relationship with a very warm and loving man. He is nine years my junior.

I almost ruined the relationship due to my insecurities.

However, reading your articles and two books giving me insight into the makeup of men, I was able to turn it around.

Now we are extremely happy and doing well. I thank you for all your research, input and care you put to each and every article.

A devoted reader

Being Hard To Get Makes Him Treasure You More

How do you know when you have won his heart completely?

When he wants to show you off to his friends.

When he can't wait to bring you home to meet his parents.

When he calls you during the day to see how you're doing.

When he does thoughtful things for you - just because.

When other men are around you at a party, he's confident in you, but... keeping his eye on the situation!

Men Cherish What They Work Hard To Obtain

Being hard to get is about one of the most basic truths of human nature:

We love a feeling of accomplishment. We love to work for something valuable and finally obtain it.

We tend to scorn what is handed to us too easily. We take those things for granted.

We rarely appreciate things which come too easily. We value the things which are elusive - harder to reach, harder to find, harder to get.

Human Nature Wins Out Every Time

Many people are suspicious and downright hostile about this truth of human nature.

They waste precious energy fighting against it - even though the truth stares them in the face every day!

When people fight against human nature, they lose every time.

They may as well be fighting against the sun rising and setting, because their discomfort is not going to change the facts of life!

We humans thrive on desire. We value what we put our time, effort, and money into.

This theme of human nature has been well known throughout the ages of time.

When you can't get something easily - it gets your attention. You want it more.

This can even be the make-or-break factor at certain crucial times.

But you have to know what you're doing - otherwise, you'll offend a guy, turn him off, or break his heart.

Make no mistake about it. Love is a game - the most wonderful "game" ever invented.

Play to win. Play hard.... to get!

From a reader

Hi Mimi, I suppose the whole thing boils down to a very old principle: whatever you work for has more value (in your mind) than what you get for free.

If you have to court a woman for three months, when you finally sleep with her, it means much more to you than if you slept with her the first night (independently of the objective "quality" of the sex). Something difficult is more meaningful than something easy.

Applied to romance, when the high-maintenance woman makes the man jump through hoops, he's associating her with something valuable, because he has to work so hard for her. Whereas as the non-demanding, "together," low-maintenance woman: well, yeah, she's attractive, but... so what? Why bother?

Hope I'm not overstating my case. ;-)


Are You Pushing Him Away By Trying Too Hard?

A man can't pursue you if you're pursuing him!

Instead, take lots of time to get to know him... and enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the destination.

Even a minor difference toward being "harder to get" can make a major difference in how your man responds to you.

Hard to get does not mean impossible to get! I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

Being hard to get means you'll never have to settle for less than the happiness you really want.

Discover how the chase will be thrilling and memorable for both of you - with love, respect, fun, and excitement.

Here's What You Get In "Hard To Get"

The "Pursuit" of Love
How To Get Chased By Men

Men love pursuit - and pursuit must be difficult. "Hard To Get' is chock-full of advice on HOW to be pursued by men, and why men love to pursue women. Men love it when you make it difficult to win you.

Why the one being pursued is the one with the most power.

How pursuing a woman brings out the best in men.

What men think about women who chase them - and why you never want to chase any man.

Why pursuing him will push him away.

How to handle men who open up and shut down!

How to apply "the whip of indifference"!

Why you have to hold back so he can come to you.

Exactly How to Be Hard To Get (Without Being Cold, Distant, or Standoffish)

How To Work With Human Nature Instead of Against It

Why You Shouldn't Act Like He's the One

Why Intensity Matters So Much

What Men Fear that Drives Them Away - and How To Avoid It

The Chase - Why It Matters So Much to Both of You!

Ultimatums (why you'll never need one)

He pursues you - and thinks that it's his idea

How to Get His Attention and get him to Chase You!

Hard to Get is Human Nature 101

Why What He Works For Has More Value

"He Was Not Going To Let Me Get Away"

"Who wants to play games just to keep a man?"

Hard to Get is about self-control and confidence

How to get comfortable on That Pedestal

"He started to behave differently."

When things are going so well - then everything changes

Does a woman have to be hard to get forever?

Why the Best Men Love Women Who are Hard to Get

Human Nature 101

It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to fight against it!

"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature. "Hard to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind shaking things up!

How the Hard-To-Get mindset gives you an edge.

Love should be playful! Being playful is one of the most important elements of "Hard to Get"!

What men really think about women who pursue them - and women who don't.

Why you can get comfortable on that pedestal - and why this is so important.

How trying less hard raises your value in his eyes.

The one way you should NOT treat a man!

How to Maintain Your Mystery with Men

Keeping the mystery is one of the greatest challenges in a relationship.

How do you become intimate, and yet, still maintain your mystery and keep him interested?

Find out how to keep the mystery alive. It's easier than you may have ever considered.

"The Serious Talk" - When You Want To Know Where Your Relationship Is Going"!

Why You Should NEVER Initiate the "Serious Talk" With Any Man

Ultimatums - the Close Cousin of the Serious Talk

But I Need To Know Where Things Stand!

Biological Clock-Watchers: The Meter is Running

"But If I Never Have a Serious Talk With Him, He May Never Commit!"

The Boiling Point - "I Don't Care What Happens"

How To Recover From the Serious Talk

"How To Get Rid of the Other Woman" (Piece of Cake)

Here are the most effective ways to ward off the other woman.

Don't compete with her - handle her. "Piece of Cake!"

Can you triumph over a female threat to your relationship? Is there someone who intrudes on your happy world with him?

This session will provide unforgettable ways to handle any woman who wishes YOUR man belonged to HER.

And Much More!!

"Mimi Tanner is simply one of the best when it comes to writing to women on the art of finding and keeping a great man. She has become well-known on a global scale in a relatively short time. Why? Because she covers highly in-demand subjects with a flair and disarming friendliness that is unequalled."

Relationship Coaches Scot and Emily McKay
Hosts of "X and Y on the Fly" Podcasts

The Scarcity Factor

One of the great lessons of love is known as the scarcity factor. Plain and simple: people tend to want what they cannot have!

When things are hard to obtain, they seem more valuable - to put it mildly.

What if someone told you that you could buy a 2-year-old Jaguar for $2,000. What would you think?

You'd think that there must be something wrong with it. (And you'd probably be right.)

When you think of luxury items or designer clothing, what is the number-one thing that sets them apart? Is it the workmanship? The quality?

Perhaps - but far more than that, it's How Much It Costs!

It costs more, so it's harder to obtain. Fewer people will be able to get it - and if you have it, you must have had something special in order to get it.

But things are only as valuable as someone thinks. And the more rare something is, the more people think it is worth.

For example - I once searched high and low to find a special, out-of-print book. I paid several hundred dollars to obtain this rare copy.

Days later, I found the very same book in a small-town public library. They were about to throw this book away, because no one had checked it out for 20 years.

It's called "perceived value."

What does this have to do with relationships between men and women? A lot!

It starts on the inside. When you value yourself, it shows, and people treat you better.

When you value yourself, you're focused on your own goals and activities - and less focused every waking minute on some guy.

What's the opposite of valuing yourself? It's feeling desperate.

Desperation repels others, and is revealed in a thousand subtle ways - all of which you want to avoid like the plague.

It's not about being self-absorbed or selfish - it's about self-respect.

The greatest gift you have is YOU. What you do with this gift will affect not only you, but literally thousands of people.

Whether you believe it or not, you already have an image. People know you and are aware of you - your presence is known. Your image is out there right now. You are somebody already.

Start today to see yourself as the kind of woman who makes men lose sleep thinking about you!

Why Most People Misunderstand (and Lose Out)

I've heard all the objections. Here are just a few:

Some women say, "With a really great man, I shouldn't need to play games."

Great men love a challenge. When they're married to you, they'll cherish you all the more because you were hard to get.

Some women say, "I don't have the energy to work on how I come across to men."

You won't need extra energy. You'll discover how less is more. The results are worth it.

Some women say, "I just don't like the whole idea of playing hard to get."

Would you rather be so "easy" that he never has a chance to do what's in his nature - pursue you?

I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

When these principles become a part of you, you'll be free to take your love life as far as you want it to go!

I can't wait for you to discover Hard To Get - a woman's best-kept secret!

A Woman's Best-Kept Secret

Hard To Get:
The Timeless Art Of Letting Him Chase You!


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Yes, love is a game. Let the games begin!

I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

When these principles become a part of you, you'll be free to take your love life as far as you want it to go!

I can't wait for you to delve into Hard To Get - a woman's best-kept secret!

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