Hard To Get - Your Personal Guidebook on How To Play the Game of Love

An open letter from writer Mimi Tanner

Hey Beautiful,

No matter what they tell you, men love it when you drive them crazy. They love it!

In my class "Hard To Get" you'll discover how to drive a man crazy.

Men feel very much alive when they are crazy with passion and interest for a woman who rivets their attention.

One way to get a man's attention is to do LESS, not more.

Does "hard to get" increase the intensity? You bet it does.

For example, many of us have an old flame who stays in our minds.

One reason that person stays in our minds is because we don't HAVE that person.

They're extremely HARD TO GET.

That affects how much you THINK about them and want them.

It intensifies the intensity. And falling in love is all about intensity!

"Hard To Get" is for the fearless, because the idea of "Hard to Get" is controversial.

It's also a well-understood fact of simple human nature.

Some people hear this phrase and automatically think it means being "manipulative" - resorting
to "tricks" to "get a man."

First - who says you need to "get a man"? You don't. You need to "get" yourself - and know that if a man "gets" you, then he's a lucky bloke indeed.

Easy equals desperate. Easy equals not waiting for what is special. Easy means not being okay
with being on your own.

Some women say, "With a really great man, I shouldn't need to play games."

We say, "Great men love a challenge. When they're married to you, they'll cherish you all the more because you were hard to get."

Truer words were never spoken.

Sometimes, a woman knows that the way she came across - in a first meeting - with a guy she liked WAS NOT the way she really wanted - and was not the true, confident HER. Maybe out of nerves, she came across a little needy or insecure. Only the slightest fine-tuning could have made a big difference.

Some women say, "I don't have the energy to work on how I come across to men."

We say, "Most worthwhile things take energy and effort. The results are worth it."

Some MEN say, "I don't want a woman who plays games."

We say, "Yeah, right. What men think they want and what they really want are usually two different things! It's just that some women are "hard to get" for them - naturally.

Some women say, "I just don't like the whole idea of playing hard to get."

We say, "Consider the alternative. It's not a pretty picture. Not being hard to get means that you get to Emotional First Base long before he does. When he realizes that you are there before him - he will start backing away from you. This causes a lot of broken hearts."

Hard To Get means you are in control - and you're a lot more likely to get the man you want and to have a better relationship with him in the long run.

"How true - how true! When I'm being mysterious and not pouring out my emotional needs, I have total control. I hate to say it, but the more I'm mysterious, the more he wants to be with me." -- Lisa

Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a reason - it has helped hundreds of thousands
of women to learn the meaning of valuing themselves and using self-restraint and self-discipline when some of their strongest urges could have resulted in actions that would have NOT worked in their best interests in the long run.

Make no mistake about it. Love is a "game" - the most wonderful "game" ever invented. Play to win. Play hard.... to get!

Love is not for the faint of heart. How well we all know that!

The Game... of Love?? Shocking!

Is it "playing a game" with a man when you play hard to get?

Yes! Playing hard to get is definitely one of the games of love (as if you didn't know).

Now let me ask you a question.

When did games get such a bad name?

Everyone loves games; from football to cards. Games are one of life's chief methods of entertainment.

Why are games okay when it comes to sports and backgammon, but not okay when it comes to romance?

"Because love is not a game!" some say. "How DARE you encourage anyone to play games of the heart!!"

Not True! Love IS a game - the most fun game ever invented - and it has always been a game. You've been involved, whether you knew it or not!

This is Mimi Tanner's Latest and Most Controversial Program - the Long Awaited "Hard To Get"!

"Mimi Tanner is simply one of the best when it comes to writing to women on the art of finding and keeping a great man. She has become well-known on a global scale in a relatively short time. Why? Because she covers highly in-demand subjects with a flair and disarming friendliness that is unequalled."

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Hosts of "X and Y on the Fly" Podcasts
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Hi - My name is Mimi Tanner. Many people know me as the author of:

"Calling Men - The Complete Guide to Calling, Emailing, and Texting the Men You Date"

"Secrets of Flirting With Men" - How To Flirt With Any Man on the Planet

"Man Mistake Eraser - How to Regain a Man's Interest"

and other writings. I have literally spent a lifetime studying the subject of MEN - and WOMEN - everything from flirting to attracting, chasing, being chased, falling in love, and why men and women fall in love.

I know what it takes to win a man's heart, and to win it back - and my advice has worked for literally thousands of women who write me every day to tell me about it. I hope you will read my daily email column and find out why so many women have learned so much about how to handle the men in their life - and even marry their Mr. Right, too - when the time is right.

Some people approach love with so many expectations and so much seriousness, and yet they wonder why they have one bad experience after another!

So the first lesson in Hard To Get is to lighten up, if you happen to be one of the Serious Sad Sacks who expect your Prince to love you anyway, WARTS and all, "for yourself" - right now, the right way, and with no game playing whatsoever!

FACT - if you're not playing the game of love, you're missing out on all the fun - and so is the love of your life! This is true whether you're single or you've been married for thirty years. If you are in a relationship, or you want to be in a relationship, then you will be served best to get very, very good at the game of love.

"But Mimi, what about "manipulation??"

Many people are against the idea of playing hard to get. They say it's wrong; it's manipulative; it's trickery of the worst order.

First of all, I'm here to show you exactly why that is NOT true.

Second, what those people are really afraid of is that playing hard to get will give you an "unfair advantage." And you know what? It will.

Last time I checked, all was still fair in love and war. I've got news for you - great news, in fact:

There's nothing wrong with playing games when it comes to love - as long as your games are for the benefit of everyone concerned - the benefit right now, and the benefit for the rest of your life - the one you're going to spend together because you're both so in love with each other.

Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get.

Be Hard To Get - or Easy To Forget

Picture this.

A man meets a woman. He says, "You're a fine-looking woman. I'd like to go out with you and in about a year, we'll get married." She says, "Great! Works for me."

What's wrong with this picture?

Would you watch a movie if this were the plot? Of course not!

Why not? Because it would be BORING!

You wouldn't read a book like that, either. In fact, any book on love, whether it was published last week or 200 years ago - has more of a plot than that!

So why would you want YOUR LOVE LIFE to be boring - when you can create memories and have fun - and still be true to your highest self?

Being Hard To Get in the Right Way

So tell me - how do men perceive you right now?

Are you the girl next door? Are you his friend but you want to be more?

Are you the kind of woman a man loses sleep over, worrying about whether he'll win your heart?

That same man who never calls you back is quite capable of falling head over heels in love with a woman who makes him feel an overwhelming desire to win her. This happens even with guys who say they are "afraid of commitment." Somehow when a certain kind of woman comes along, these guys miraculously lose their fear of commitment because they are so busy trying to get this woman into their lives - determined, in fact.

But what does it take to become that kind of woman in your man's life?

Hard To Get is a private program, delivered to you online, which speaks to the hearts of thousands of women. It's that kind of program that women love to own and generally don't tell the entire world about it - but they devour the book privately and take its principles to heart.

How do you know when you have won his heart?

When he wants to show you off to his friends.

When he can't wait to bring home to meet his parents.

When he calls you during the day to see how you're doing.

When he does thoughtful things for you - just because.

When other men are around you at a party, he's confident in you, but... keeping his eye on the situation!

Perceived Value and the Scarcity Factor

One of the great lessons of love is known as the scarcity factor. Plain and simple: people tend to want what they cannot have!

When things are hard to obtain, they seem more valuable - to put it mildly.

What if someone told you that you could buy a 2-year-old Jaguar for $15,000. What would you think?

You'd think that there must be something wrong with it. (And you'd probably be right.)

When you think of luxury items or designer clothing, what is the number-one thing that sets them apart? Is it the workmanship? The quality?

Perhaps - but far more than that, it's the PRICE. That is what gets your attention and makes it stand apart from all the others - it costs more, and it's harder to obtain. Fewer people will be able to get it - and if you have it, it's clear that you must have had something special in order to get it.

     But things are only as valuable as someone thinks. And the more rare something is, the more people think it is worth.

     I once searched high and low to find a special, out-of-print book. It was written in the 1950's and few people remembered it. I was thrilled to finally find the book, and paid $150 over the internet in order to obtain this rare copy.

     Only a few weeks later, the very same book was given to me by a public school librarian who was about to throw it out because no one had checked it out in at least fifteen years.

     Obviously some people think that book is valuable - or the price would not have been so high - but for others, it was gathering dust and needed to be discarded.

     It's called "perceived value."

     How does this apply to relationships between men and women? It really starts on the inside. If you value yourself, it will show, and others will value you more, too.

     If you value yourself, you will be focused on your own goals and activities - and less focused every waking minute on some guy. That automatically makes you more hard to get.

What's the opposite of hard to get? It's desperate. Desperation repels others, and is revealed in a thousand subtle ways - all of which you need to avoid like the plague.

I get a lot of email from women who are spending enormous amounts of time thinking about a guy in their life, but who are not spending enormous amounts of time adding value to their own lives by learning and growing. That is the first step to becoming hard to get.

It's not about being self-absorbed or selfish - it's really about self-respect. The greatest gift you have is YOU. What you do with this gift will affect not only you, but literally thousands of people.

Whether you believe it or not, you already have an image. People know you and are aware of you - your presence is known. Your image is out there. You are somebody already.

Is that somebody the kind of person who is sought after?

Start today to see yourself as the kind of woman who makes men lose sleep thinking about you!

What's "Hard To Get" All About?

Exactly How to Be Hard To Get

How To Work With Human Nature Instead of Against It

Why You Shouldn't Act Like He's the One

Why Intensity Matters So Much

What Men Fear that Drives Them Away - and How To Avoid It

The Chase - Why It Matters So Much to Both of You!

Ultimatums (why you'll never need one, and Plan B if you DO need one)

The "Reverse Ultimatum" - You won't have to say a word to him!

Men Who Can't Say "I Love You"

Why You Should NEVER Initiate the "Serious Talk" With Any Man

and much, much more!

Here's a Peek at What You Get Immediately When You Order:

Class One - "The Serious Talk" - When You Want To Know Where Your Relationship Is Going"!

The first class of "Hard To Get" is called "The Serious Talk - When You Want To Know Where Your Relationship Is Going"!

Playing Hard to Get Means You Never Initiate the Serious Talk

Ultimatums - the Close Cousin of the Serious Talk

But I Need To Know Where Things Stand!

Biological Clock-Watchers: The Meter is Running

"But If I Never Have a Serious Talk With Him, He May Never Commit!"

The Boiling Point - "I Don't Care What Happens"

How To Recover From the Serious Talk

Class Two: Human Nature 101

It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to fight against it!

"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature. That is one of the themes we're talking about in this class. "Hard to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind shaking things up!

Playing Hard to Get Works!

Class Three: "How To Get Rid of the Other Woman" (Piece of Cake)

Here are the most effective ways to ward off the other woman. Don't compete with her - handle her. "Piece of Cake!"

Can you triumph over a female threat to your relationship? Is there someone who intrudes on your happy world with him? This month's class will provide unforgettable ways to handle any woman wishes YOUR man belonged to HER.

Class Four: "Beauty and the Frump" - and -
Maintaining Your Mystery with Men

We don't want to be loved for our looks or to lose out to another woman because of looks. How to understand how this fits in the puzzle of relationships, and what is and isn't important. Then in Part Two of this class, we talk about how to enhance your confidence and make it easier than you may have ever considered.

Class Five: The Pursuit of Love
How To Get Chased By Men

Men love pursuit - and pursuit must be difficult. Class 5 is chock-full of advice on HOW to be pursued by men, and why men love to pursue women. Men love it when you make it difficult to win you.

You'll read about many ways to hold back so he can come to you.

Class Six is "The Reverse Ultimatum!"

Here's why Traditional Ultimatums are a showdown where someone always loses. You don't want this kind of "shotgun wedding" with the man you love. Find out how to get the same results without breaking a sweat or burning your bridges.

The "Reverse Ultimatum" includes a special section on called "He Just Wants to Live Together!"