How To Get Chased By Your Man -
Not the Other Way Around!
Find Out How To
Maintain Your Mystery
With Him, and Create
Lasting Desire By
Secrets of Human Nature
No Matter What Men Say....
Listen To This Special Message About Playing Hard To Get:
No matter what they tell you, men
love it when you drive them crazy. They love it!
feel very much alive when they are crazy with passion and interest for a
woman who rivets their attention.
One way to get a man's
attention is to do LESS, not more.
Does "hard to get" increase the intensity? You bet
For example, many of us have an old flame who stays in our minds.
One reason that person stays in our minds is because we don't HAVE that
They're extremely HARD TO GET.
That affects how much you THINK about them and want them.
It intensifies the intensity. And falling in love is all about
"Hard To Get" is for the fearless, because the idea of
"Hard to Get" is controversial.
It's also a well-understood fact
of simple human nature.
Some people hear this phrase and automatically
think it means being "manipulative" - resorting to "tricks" to "get a
First - who says you need to "get a man"? You don't. You
need to "get" yourself - and know that if a man "gets" you, then he's a
lucky bloke indeed.
Easy equals desperate. Easy equals not waiting for what is special. Easy
means not being okay with being on your own.
Some women say,
"With a really great man, I shouldn't need to play games."
say, "Great men love a challenge. When they're married to you, they'll
cherish you all the more because you were hard to get."
words were never spoken.
Sometimes, a woman knows that the way she came across - in a first
meeting - with a guy she liked WAS NOT the way she really wanted - and
was not the true, confident HER. Maybe out of nerves, she came across a
little needy or insecure. Only the slightest fine-tuning could have made
a big difference.
Some women say, "I don't have the energy to
work on how I come across to men."
We say, "Most worthwhile
things take energy and effort. The results are worth it."
MEN say, "I don't want a woman who plays games."
We say, "Yeah, right. What men think they want and what they really
want are usually two different things! It's just that some women are
"hard to get" for them - naturally.
Some women say, "I just
don't like the whole idea of playing hard to get."
"Consider the alternative. It's not a pretty picture. Not being hard to
get means that you get to Emotional First Base long before he does. When
he realizes that you are there before him - he will start backing away
from you. This causes a lot of broken hearts."
Hard To Get means
you are in control - and you're a lot more likely to get the man you
want and to have a better relationship with him in the long run.
"How true - how true! When I'm being mysterious and not pouring out my
emotional needs, I have total control. I hate to say it, but the more
I'm mysterious, the more he wants to be with me." -- Lisa
Hard to Get is a time-honored
principle for a reason - it has helped hundreds of thousands of women to
learn the meaning of valuing themselves and using self-restraint and
self-discipline when some of their strongest urges could have resulted
in actions that would have NOT worked in their best interests in the
Make no mistake about it. Love is
a "game" - the most wonderful "game" ever invented. Play to win.
Play hard.... to get!
Love is not for the faint of heart. How
well we all know that!
The Game... of Love?? Shocking!
Is it "playing a game" with a man when
you play hard to get?
Yes! Playing hard to get is definitely
one of the games of love (as if you didn't know).
Now let me ask you a question.
When did games get such a bad name?
Everyone loves games; from football to
cards. Games are one of life's chief methods of entertainment.
Why are games okay when it comes to
sports and backgammon, but not okay when it comes to romance?
love is not a game!" some say. "How DARE you encourage anyone to
play games of the heart!!"
Not True! Love IS a game - the most
fun game ever invented - and it has always been a game. You've
been involved, whether you knew it or not!
The Pursuit of Love
How To Get Chased By
Men love pursuit - and pursuit must be
difficult. This class is chock-full of advice on HOW
to be pursued by men, and why men love to pursue women. Men
love it when you make it difficult to win you.
The one being pursued is the one with the most power.
Hard To Get brings out the best in men
What men think about women who chase them - and why you
never want to chase any man
Why pursuing him will push him away
How to handle men who open up and shut down
How to apply "the whip of indifference"!
Why you have to hold back so he can come to you.
Human Nature 101
It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to
fight against it!
"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature.
That is one of the themes we're talking about in this class.
"Hard to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind
shaking things up!
Playing Hard to Get Works! The Hard-To-Get mindset gives you
Love should be
playful! Being playful is one of the most important
elements of "Hard to Get"!
really think about women who are Hard To Get
Why you can
get comfortable on that pedestal - and why this is
Being Hard To Get raises your value in his eyes.
The one way you should
NOT treat a man!
Maintaining Your Mystery with Men
This is one of the greatest challenges in a relationship -
how do you become intimate, and yet, still maintain your
mystery and keep him interested? Here's how to enhance
your confidence and make it easier than you may have ever
"The Serious Talk" - When You Want To Know Where Your
Relationship Is Going"!
Playing Hard to Get Means You Never Initiate the Serious
Ultimatums - the Close Cousin of the Serious Talk
But I Need To Know Where Things Stand!
Biological Clock-Watchers: The Meter is Running
"But If I Never Have a Serious Talk With Him, He May Never
The Boiling Point - "I Don't Care What Happens"
How To Recover From the Serious Talk
"Beauty and the Frump"
We don't want to be loved for our looks or to lose out to
another woman because of looks. How to understand how this
fits in the puzzle of relationships, and what is and isn't
"How To Get Rid of the Other Woman" (Piece of
Here are the most effective ways to ward off the other
woman. Don't compete with her - handle her. "Piece of Cake!"
Can you triumph over a female threat to your
relationship? Is there someone who intrudes on your happy
world with him? This class will provide unforgettable ways
to handle any woman wishes YOUR man belonged to HER.
This is Mimi Tanner's Most Controversial Program
No holds barred, no pretend indignation here - let's talk about
Human Nature and how it works with every one of us, each and
every day - especially when it comes to your love life.
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My name is Mimi Tanner, the author of many books on
I have literally spent a lifetime studying the subject of MEN - and
WOMEN - everything from flirting to attracting, chasing, being chased,
falling in love, and why men and women fall in love.
I know what it takes to win a man's heart, and to win it
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how to handle the men in their life - and even marry their Mr. Right,
too - when the time is right.
Some people approach love with so many expectations and
so much seriousness, and yet they wonder why they have one bad
experience after another!
FACT - if you're not playing the game of love, you're
missing out on all the fun - and so is the love of your life! This is
true whether you're single or you've been married for thirty years.
If you are in a relationship, or you want to be in a relationship, then
you will be served best to get very, very good at the game of love.
"But Mimi, What About
Many people are
against the idea of playing hard to get. They say it's wrong; it's
manipulative; it's trickery of the worst order.
First of all, I'm
here to show you exactly why that is NOT true.
Second, what those
people are really afraid of is that playing hard to get will give you an
"unfair advantage." And you know what? It will.
Last time I
checked, all was still fair in love and war. I've got news for you
- great news, in fact:
wrong with playing games when it comes to love - as long as your games
are for the benefit of everyone concerned - the benefit right now, and
the benefit for the rest of your life - the one you're going to spend
together because you're both so in love with each other.
Let the games
begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get.
To Get - or Easy To Forget
A man meets a woman. He says, "You're a
fine-looking woman. I'd like to go out with you and in about a year,
we'll get married." She says, "Great! Works for me."
What's wrong with this picture?
Would you watch a movie if this were the plot? Of course
Why not? Because it would be BORING!
You wouldn't read a book like that, either. In fact, any
book on love, whether it was published last week or 200 years ago - has
more of a plot than that!
So why would you want YOUR LOVE LIFE to be boring - when
you can create memories and have fun - and still be true to your highest
Hard To Get in the Right Way
So tell me - how do men perceive you right now?
Are you the girl next door? Are you his friend but
you want to be more?
Are you the kind of woman a man loses sleep over,
worrying about whether he'll win your heart?
That same man who
never calls you back is quite capable of falling head over heels in love
with a woman who makes him feel an overwhelming desire to win her. This
happens even with guys who say they are "afraid of commitment." Somehow
when a certain kind of woman comes along, these guys miraculously lose
their fear of commitment because they are so busy trying to get this
woman into their lives - determined, in fact.
But what does it take to become that kind of woman in
your man's life?
Hard To Get is a private program which speaks to the hearts of thousands
of women. It's that kind of program that women love to own and generally
don't tell the entire world about it - but they devour the book
privately and take its principles to heart.
How do you know when you have won his heart?
When he does thoughtful things for you - just
When other men are around you at a party, he's
confident in you, but... keeping his eye on the situation!
It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to fight against
"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature. "Hard
to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind shaking things up!
Being hard to get is a response to one of the most basic truths of human
Humans love a feeling of accomplishment. We love to work for
something valuable and finally obtain it.
We tend to scorn what is
handed to us too easily. We rarely appreciate things which come too easily.
We value the things which are elusive - harder to reach, harder to find,
harder to get.
As humans, we are created to thrive on desire. Here's
a newsflash: You can't desire something you already have!
As with many other realities of life, many
people are unhappy about this truth of human nature and waste precious
energy fighting against it. They regard it with suspicion and even hostility
- even though the truth of it stares them in the face every day!
They may as well be fighting against the sun rising and setting,
because their discomfort is not going to change the facts of life! There's
just no denying it - being hard to get is a fundamental principle of human
nature and particularly, romance. It can even be the make-or-break factor at
certain crucial times.
Lots of books and articles say that they disagree with being hard to get
and "playing games," but then they proceed to tell people to do the exact
same things that you do when you're "hard to get"!
By the way, when
did "games" get such a bad name? So games are okay when it's checkers, but
not okay when it comes to romance? Who came up with that rule? The kind of
"games" we're talking about will keep you healthy, happy, and having the
time of your life - and so will he.
This theme of human nature has
been well known throughout the ages of time. When you can't get something
easily - people want it more. Not only that, but the price-tag goes up too.
(Check your local market.)
Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a reason -
it has helped hundreds of thousands of women to learn the meaning of valuing
themselves and using self-restraint and self-discipline when some of their
strongest urges could have resulted in actions that would have NOT worked in
their best interests in the long run.
More on "games" in my program
"Hard To Get." But make no mistake about it. Love is a game - the most
wonderful "game" ever invented. Play to win. Play hard.... to get!
A reader I will call Lucinda agrees with this facet of human nature
that "whatever you work for has more value than what you get for free."
I suppose the whole thing boils down to a
very old principle: whatever you work for has more value (in your mind) than
what you get for free.
If you have to court a woman for three months, when you finally
sleep with her, it means much more to you than if you slept with her the
first night (independently of the objective "quality" of the sex). Something
difficult is more meaningful than something easy.
Applied to romance, when the high-maintenance woman makes the
man jump through hoops, he's associating her with something valuable,
because he has to work so hard for her. Whereas as the non-demanding,
"together," low-maintenance woman: well, yeah, she's attractive, but... so
what? Why bother?
Hope I'm not overstating my case. ;-)
A man can't pursue you if you're already his - way too soon, or too
Instead, take lots of time to get to know him... and enjoy the
journey instead of focusing on the destination.
Even a minor
difference toward being "harder to get" can make a major difference in how
your man responds to you.
Hard to get does not mean impossible to get! I'll show you how to
enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your
Being hard to get means you'll never have to settle for
less than the happiness you really want. Discover how the chase
will be thrilling and memorable for both of you - with love, respect,
fun, and excitement.
Being hard to get means enhancing your mystery, no
matter how well he thinks he knows you!
Yes, love is a game. Let the games begin! And when you
play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get!
Author of Hard To Get: The Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart
You go Mimi!
I hope these women "get" what you are saying.
You are a
potential life preserver for many, Mimi.....I
hope they grab the HUGE BUOY OF INFORMATION you
throw to them as they flail along in the sea of
relationships.......you offer them the ways and
means to preserve their precious life, sanity,
dignity and INTEGRITY!!!!!!
Wanted to give you a
thanks for your amazing work. I've purchased
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I just want to say, from someone who's read
EVERYTHING there is to read
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Finally, a positive out look and an ANSWER on
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What's "Hard To Get" All About?
Why You Shouldn't Act Like He's the One
Exactly How to Be Hard To Get
How To Work With Human Nature Instead of Against
Why Intensity Matters So Much
What Men Fear that
Drives Them Away - and How To Avoid It
The Chase - Why It Matters So Much to Both of
Ultimatums (why you'll
never need one)
He pursues you - and
thinks that it's his idea
Why You Should NEVER
Initiate the "Serious Talk" With Any Man
More from "Hard To
How to Get His Attention and get him to Chase You!
Hard to Get is Human Nature 101
Why What He Works For Has More Value
"He Was Not Going To Let Me Get Away"
"Who wants to play games just to keep a man?
Hard to Get is about self-control and confidence
How to get comfortable on That Pedestal
"He started to behave differently."
When things are going so well - then everything
How to Get Rid of the Other Woman - Piece of Cake!
Does a woman have to be hard to get forever?
Why the Best Men Love Women Who are Hard to Get
And Much More!!
Perceived Value and the Scarcity Factor
One of the great lessons of love is known
as the scarcity factor. Plain and simple: people tend to
want what they cannot have!
When things are hard to obtain, they seem more valuable
- to put it mildly.
What if someone told you that you could buy a 2-year-old
Jaguar for $15,000. What would you think?
You'd think that there must be something wrong with it.
(And you'd probably be right.)
When you think of luxury items or designer clothing,
what is the number-one thing that sets them apart? Is it
the workmanship? The quality?
Perhaps - but far more than that,
it's the PRICE. That is what gets your attention
and makes it stand apart from all the others - it costs
more, and it's harder to obtain. Fewer people will be
able to get it - and if you have it, it's clear that you
must have had something special in order to get it.
are only as valuable as someone thinks. And
something is, the
more people think it is worth.
I once searched high and low to find a special,
out-of-print book. It was written in the 1950's
and few people remembered it. I was thrilled to
finally find the book, and paid $150 over the internet
in order to obtain this rare copy.
Only a few weeks later, the very same book was given to
me by a public school librarian who was about to throw
it out because no one had checked it out in at least
Obviously some people think that book is valuable - or
the price would not have been so high - but for others,
it was gathering dust and needed to be discarded.
It's called "perceived value."
How does this apply to
relationships between men and women? It really starts on
the inside. If you value yourself, it will show, and
others will value you more, too.
If you value yourself, you will be focused on your own
goals and activities - and less focused every waking
minute on some guy. That automatically makes you
more hard to get.
opposite of hard to get? It's desperate.
Desperation repels others, and is revealed in a thousand
subtle ways - all of which you need to avoid like the
I get a lot of
email from women who are spending enormous amounts of
time thinking about a guy in their life, but who are not
spending enormous amounts of time adding value to their
own lives by learning and growing. That's the
first step to becoming hard to get.
It's not about
being self-absorbed or selfish - it's really about
self-respect. The greatest gift you have is YOU. What
you do with this gift will affect not only you, but
literally thousands of people.
Whether you believe it or not, you already have an
image. People know you and are aware of you - your
presence is known. Your image is out there. You are
somebody the kind of person who is sought after?
Start today to see yourself
as the kind of woman who makes men lose sleep
thinking about you!
A man can't pursue you if you're already his - way too
soon, or too easily!
Instead, take lots of time to get to know him... and enjoy the
journey instead of focusing on the destination.
a minor difference toward being "harder to get" can make a major
difference in how your man responds to you.
Hard to get does not mean impossible to
get! I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in
control of your love life and your future.
Being hard to get means you'll never have
to settle for less than the happiness you really want. Discover
how the chase will be thrilling and memorable for both of you - with
love, respect, fun, and excitement.
Being hard to get means enhancing your
mystery, no matter how well he thinks he knows you!
Yes, love is a
game. Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure
to play hard to get!
Hard To Get: The
Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart
"A man must spend time thinking
about you in order to fall in
love with you."
- Mimi Tanner, author of Hard
To Get: The Timeless Art of
Conquering His Heartt
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